Understanding My Shy Guy's Cons

I've always thought of myself as practical and as a realist, so before it looks like i'm completely gaga over my guy, here are a few things that I have to deal with.

My shy guy tells little white lies. 

He doesn’t know that I know this yet, but I’ve caught his embellishments a few times before. He works security and he once told me a story about a man with a gun being tackled by police where he works. Later it slipped out that there had been no gun and that the police knew how to handle the guy quite well. Another time it started raining as we were walking back to his car and I had an umbrella and he didn't. I asked him jokingly where his went and he said that he really didn't know - "musta left it at home." I opened the passenger door to his car and it was sitting there on the seat. He got all embarrassed. GOOD.

Yes, I'm glad that I caught him, but I also understand why he embellishes his life nowadays. As far as I know, in his twenty-two years of existence, only the last two or so have been unadventurous. Seriously, he grew up on an island without electricity, home-schooled by his mother, took vacations surfing in Australia every year, and got to sail around the Caribbean for years at a time. Now he has to be grown up, have a job, and plays videogames for fun. If it had to change my life that much, I might embellish a bit too... plus, you know that a guy likes you when he wants you to think more of him than what his life currently has to offer. 

Yeah, it irks me sometimes, and once I get to know him better, we'll talk about it, but thus far, I'll just continue to deal with it.

Shy guys can get awkward, making taking the lead mandatory. 

Some of you probably think that it's just laziness on his part for not arranging meeting places and restaurants to woo me with. Part of the problem is that we live in different cities and he tends to come and see me more than I go to see him (mainly because he has a car.) I know my city better than he does, so why not take the lead on places to go? He doesn't know if a place will horrible, and he wants a good experience as much as I do. 

As for the physical side of this con, I had to read his body language so well to take the lead in a kiss. He looked like a scared puppy dog, but I knew what he wanted because he looked like it at the end of two dates straight. Note that he didn't even get this look until the seventh date. Yeah, a little awkward, but it's nothing that a woman can't handle.

Lions vs. lambs

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to not have a boyfriend who slobbers all over you like a hungry lion, and lets you take the lead? I gots myself one o’ those guys.

We’ve only been dating for a few months now, and seriously, I’ve had to make every move so far --- the poor dear. He’s younger than me and I’m his first girlfriend, so I get it, but I never expected that taking the lead would be so difficult to maintain. I somehow have to manage his ego, so he feels like “the man”, and also manage my own feelings at the same time. So basically, he arranges the days of the dates and pays for them, and I do absolutely everything else.

I know what you’re probably thinking, “Wait, isn’t it the man’s job to arrange the dates and make the moves.”

On the contrary my dear reader, it has taken a month of messaging on a dating site, twenty or so nights of talking on Skype, nine weekly dates, and probably a hundred text messages between us to start a relationship, and so far it seems to be working.

To this day there have been a few bouts of handholding and a kiss or three, actually just three kisses, all instigated by me. And I don’t mind it, he’s just nervous. Last time he said that I made him feel on top of the world. I blush just thinking about it.

He admits that he's a shy guy, and I like that. I told him so.

This blog will be dedicated to writing about my feats and challenges while dating my shy guy. 

I may not have a hungry lion, but so far it seems that sometimes lambs can be harder to tame.